Tristemente, I attended a funeral yesterday. It was a well-attended service - the old gentleman had done a lot of charity and church work, and many came out to pay respect. What do you say to someone who is grieving? What words can you possibly say, to really comfort them? I don't think there are any. Unfortunately, many of these things end up turning into spectacles. Everyone deserves dignity, even in death. I've always believed in treating the people you love well when they're still alive - anything you do after death is but a show for the living.
A shame. I think the family deserves to mourn in private. A death in the family is an extraordinarily difficult circumstance, and sometimes, the best thing to do is to leave them alone.